It’s not a secret that the first half (roughly) of 2013 was the darkest, most painful time of my life. The second half was primarily crisis stabilization and learning how to continue to exist (along with a magnificent trip to Ireland). After that, I desperately, desperately, needed 2014 to be gentle, to have a kind and drama-free environment in which to begin the (probably life-long) healing process. Really, the whole Horde needed it in order to heal individually, repair bonds that were damaged and stressed over the previous couple of years, and to just be a family.
We got it.
I’ve had no conflict in my life (outside of my own head) that’s risen above the level of “squabble” in the last year and a half. It’s been wonderful and an incredible contrast. Thankfully, it hasn’t been because anyone has been walking on eggshells around anyone else or repressing needs or conflicts. We’re just working smoothly together, on the same page, and with everyone’s best interests at heart. If I live to be 120 I don’t think I’ll ever stop appreciating it. This is how family should work!
This has allowed us to begin re-writing our plan for the future and acting upon it. We’ve decided to stay in Florida, and our plan has evolved to include building or buying a large house together. This is awesome and exciting! It’s also become a major time commitment, despite still being in the early planning stages. We look at houses and lots most weekends, and are also involved in budgeting, home design, and investigating the possibility of forming an LLC. It’s not always fun, but it’s something we’re doing together. Adventure! :-)
One other little thing that’s worth mentioning about Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving dinner was at redheadlass and zensidhe’s place, with their respective bio-families. Jessie’s mom has known about our relationship for a few years now, but Mike only recently came out to his dad and his dad’s girlfriend, so this year we didn’t have to conceal anything or refrain from showing affection cross-couple (I’ve never hidden affection with other partners in the past, which lead to some interesting assumptions). It didn’t really affect our behavior significantly, but not having to think about it was nice.
There’s so much more, but I’m already several days late posting this and I don’t want to drone on and on. I’m surrounded by wonderful, loving people. If you’re in my life, I’m thankful for you.