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Poly in Principle

This kind of follows on the "never enough time" theme in the last post. Kim and I have now been "single" for almost year and a half. We're still most definitely poly, but after 15 or so months I'm having a hard time remembering how we've managed to make time to sustain poly relationships in the past. Actually, a quick look at the not-quite-as-bad-anymore disaster that is our house pretty well explains where the tradeoff was made. Yikes!

I'm interested in us meeting new people and exploring new relationships, but at the moment I'm not sure that I have the time to do it right, and I definitely don't want to do it half way. It seems like I'd either be cheating a prospective new partner of the time they deserve, cheating Kim of our already too short together time, or cheating myself of the time that I've recently realized I need to keep from bogging myself down with personal "to-do's".

Bit by bit though, things are getting better. Items are getting checked off of the list, progress is being made on both the house and Gir, work has become more sane, and life in general seems to be starting to slowly defrag.

I had more to say on the subject, specifically relating to wanting to be a complete whore poly dating, but somewhere during dinner the whole train of thought fell out of my head. :-( Need more defrag!

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toranin
Aug. 9th, 2008 03:31 am (UTC)
I can sympathize. While technically being 'poly' myself, I haven't had time to even write quality messages to potential interests online, much less actually initiate a real relationship. It's quite a challenge actually making it happen, no matter how much it may appeal.
kismet76
Aug. 9th, 2008 01:14 pm (UTC)
Sorry...

life does seem to get in the way of everything else doesn't it...?

serolynne
Aug. 9th, 2008 02:44 pm (UTC)
I totally get this, and I'm in a similar head space.. and actually quite enjoying the benefits of only one major relationship in my life. I still identify as poly and all, but just not really in an open mind space right now.


And, it's also been my experience that my best relationships have tended to find me when I wasn't in an overly looking mode anyway.
scrappygeek
Aug. 10th, 2008 04:08 pm (UTC)
If you didn't already listen to it, recent Poly Weekly podcast 163 called "I Vant to be Alone" was based on an email I sent cunningminx and it's very pertinent - I think. :)
datan0de
Aug. 10th, 2008 05:11 pm (UTC)
Oh! I didn't realize that you were the inspiration for that episode! I'll have to re-listen to it now with that in mind. :-)
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